7 Tips for Sex in the Shower

by Shelly Lomax of Trimet

For some people, sex in the shower proves to be a carnal challenge. Some feel uncomfortably confined while they’re in the stall, while others get too distracted by the thought of slipping and falling. However, although it takes some creative manoeuvring, there are many advantages to this very wet form of sexual activity.

Why it’s Great
The shower is the most natural place to be naked, and getting intimate there creates a novel twist to your sex life. Having steamy hot water run down your bodies can be extremely seductive, which also seriously increases your chance of getting lucky. The setting is naturally conducive to sensual caress, oral attention and deep Kissing. It’s an efficient, no fuss way to get off, and comes in especially handy when you don’t have privacy or when time is a constraint. It’s refreshing and invigorating, which is great for those who fall into a coma-like sleep after they cum. It’s also very suitable for those who suffer from the adverse effects of chronic body odor.

Doing it in the shower is a highly effective form of Foreplay, as well as a perfect opportunity to get a quickie in. Shower sex can be the place where the main event takes place or a deliciously clean precursor to getting dirty everywhere else in the house. Though, you don’t necessarily need to leave the bathroom. The shower is a great transition to or from having sex on the sink counter, in front of the bathroom mirror, or up against the wall; you can use the toilet (with the lid down) as a seat while you give head or as a prop for sex positions like Doggy Style - Standing.

So now that you’re all fired up to get wet, check out our tips for shower sex – they’ll help make it sexy every time you step under the spritzer.

1. Safe is Sexy
Please be careful when getting down in the shower. It’s very easy to slip, so take precautions to avoid any unnecessary, let alone embarrassing, injuries. Here are a few suggestions. Make sure your shower floor is clean of any soapy or oily residue. While at play, use bath products carefully; you can easily lose your footing on a slick body scrub. Although steamy can be sexy, provide adequate ventilation to prevent anyone from getting faint or dizzy.

If you don’t have ledges or handles to hold on to, head down to the local hardware store and see if you can find handles or towel rods that can securely adhere to the shower wall. They provide added support and stability for the couple, and if positioned right, can boost eroticism. (Try sticking them on the ceiling or higher up along the wall.) Avoid slippery floors by using adhesive grips or a rubber mat. If you need a boost, an option to check out is a sturdy, rubber-bottomed stool.

2. Make it Spic and Span
Soap scum and piles of hair in the drain take the magic away from shower sex – and fast. A bathroom that’s well prepared for sex includes a sanitized shower stall, a fresh scent, and clean towels. Avoid clutter by removing unnecessary stuff off counters and the shower caddy. Post coitus, make sure that all leftover bodily fluid is rinsed away; if not, it can leave a sticky residue that’s hard to clean.

3. Set the mood
Be prepared for anything and everything. Many of the same accessories you keep handy for lovemaking in the bedroom are useful in the bathroom; candles and scented Massage oil are a must. Have nicely scented soap on hand, but use it with care! For many women, not only does it lead to an uncomfortable reaction when it contacts the vagina, the irritation may linger for days afterward. Opt for lots of foreplay to get lubricated and keep a bottle of silicone (not water-based) lube on hand. One of the few downsides of shower sex is that water quickly washes away natural lubrication, so have some extra handy!

4. Clean Each Others’ Nooks and Crannies
Washing one another is an intimate and seductive act. Both of you come out clean, smelling fresh and feeling confident, all of which help put you in the mood. Use a sponge, bath mitt or soft washcloth and lather each others` bodies with a mild soap or gentle shampoo. Take your time to caress sensitive areas and feel free to sneak in a tongue or a finger.

This activity is a natural lead in for other sensual stuff like Oral Sex, erotic shaving, Analingus, and Anal Sex. If you’ve always wanted to try some racier oral sex positions, the shower’s the place to do it; we recommend trying Eve’s Ecstasy, Jack Hammer or Forbidden Fruit. And, when it comes to the ladies, make sure you spend enough time getting her really turned on – a common complaint from women is that shower sex takes too much concentration without enough pleasure.

5. Water Toys
What a great place to introduce a sex toy! Consider the fun you could have with a waterproof vibe. There are also splash-proof, hands-free options available that can be worn by either a man or a woman. How about a Dildo that you could suction to the shower wall? If you don’t have any Sex Toys suitable for water play, use tools that are located right at your fingertips. If you don’t have one already, a quality shower head is the best investment into your sex life in the shower. As one of the most common ‘sex toys’ that women start out Masturbating with, not only will she appreciate the gesture, she’ll also love all those fan dangled spray and massage options.

6. Appropriate Sex Positions
Prepare an arsenal of passionate poses to steam it up in the bathroom. If there’s a significant height or body size difference, it’s all the more reason to have some practised in your mind. In addition, be mindful of positioning yourselves so that water isn’t spurting into one another’s face.

The most appropriate positions are variations on the standing Rear Entry position, Bodyguard. Have her put her hands up against the wall and spread her legs, as though she were getting frisked, and penetrate her from behind. Get her to bend right over as in Ben Dover and then support her by the wrists in Prison Guard.

If you want gaze into each others’ eyes, try some of these face to face poses. If differing heights don’t get in the way, be on your feet in a sort of standing Missionary; then, get a leg over in Dancer, one of the most popular positions for the shower. If you can really get a leg over, try Ballerina. Another hot shower position is to hold her up entirely, shown in Stand & Carry.

When you need to take a break, get down on your knees and try kneeling Missionary, Bended Knee, or some good old Doggy Style. If you want to be able to sit for a while, do the Lotus.

7. Make the Best of What You’ve Got
You may not own the shower you’ve always fantasized about having sex in but, whether it’s big or small, use what you’ve got to your advantage. If you’ve got a tight space with nowhere to sit or rest a leg, you’ll have the most fun with standing positions. Press her against the wall of the shower and penetrate her from behind; the coolness of the shower wall will be an invigorating contrast to the hot action going on behind her.

If her legs are long enough, she can use the walls of the shower to hold herself up as he presses her body against the wall for Face to Face penetration. Wrapping a leg around his hip or leg is also a great way for her to maintain balance during Intercourse. When you need to use a restful pose, throw some towels down on the shower floor and use them to have sex on while you’re on your knees.

For those of you who’ve got a shower seat or a bathtub, enjoy the convenience. Use the seat and ledges to prop up a leg or to brace against; find creative ways to incorporate the bathtub ledge into intercourse. Since you’re not as confined with space, why not try positions like Bulldog and Cowgirl.

Final Thoughts
With all of these great reasons to get dirty while you’re getting clean, why not try getting it on in the shower! Whether you use it to start off a night of fantastic lovemaking, or as a quick way to get off, the shower is an un-sung winner.

Make Your Own Porn Movie With Female Porn Director Sophie Kinsella

by Shelly Lomax

On this week's Dirty Talk Show we have the extremely gorgeous and multi-talented Sophie Kinsella , female-friendly Porn Director and erotic author, talking about her kinky career and her top tips for how you can make your very own home porn movie!

You can buy Sophie Kinsella DVDs from me.

Shelly: Sophie Kinsella , to begin with, can you give Shelly's readers a brief overview of what your job entails?

Sophie Kinsella : Since 1998 I have been writing, directing and producing porn films with over 185 scenes made to date. My job includes everything from choosing the models, writing the scripts, camera work and overseeing the editing. In the last year I focused on setting up distribution, too.

SL: Why did you decide to get involved with the porn industry?

SK: Because I have always liked sex, because I knew it was important to add to women's understanding of their sexuality and because I am naturally experimental and this type of film allows you that space to experiment.

SL: How did you land your job as a porn director and what was your first job in the industry?

SK: I wrote my dissertation, 'Towards A Better Pornography,' in 1997 at St Martins school Of Art while studying Fine Art, Film and Video. I then tried to make my first feature porn film by myself, but I eventually started making programmes for Television X while working there full-time as an Editor making censor's cuts – ironically!

SL: You're a director of 'female friendly' porn. What exactly does that mean?

SK: It involves camera shoots from a female perspective angle as well as the male; good looking guys; believable/funny scenarios; eye contact; good styling; non degrading roles for women; fantasy or reality type scenarios (I do two types) and humour. I also don't sell films by body types, ie, big-titted women or by acts, ie, all anal because women don't think like that.

SL: Which film would you say is the best example of your work?

SK: There isn't one that's best – some scenes really work, some less so. My personal favourites vary, but I like A& O Department and Sophie Mates a lot.

SL: What tips can you give Shelly's readers about making their own home porn videos?

SK: I've written a whole book on the subject called Erotic Home Video – Make Your Own Erotic Films, which has loads of tips on the subject, but I would mainly say that you should both share using the camera and explore your point of view. Put it on auto, as you wont make a technical masterpiece anyway. Begin the scenario with a narrative, which can start with sneaky peaks outside, and if you're embarrassed try mimicking porn stars to get started and use POV (Point Of View) shots as they evoke real sex and can be very horny.

SL: And how would people get around the problem of not having their own camerman?

SK: You could set it up on a tripod/chest of drawers or use a mirror.

SL: So what is the steamiest sex scene you have ever directed?

SK: There have been many. I shot a girl on girl scene the other day where one of the girl's had never had sex with a girl before, and the other did fisting, was shagged by a foot and a bottle as well as other acts and she was totally keen to do these things. The energy between the two was a one off!

SL: Do you ever get turned on when directing a sex scene?

SK: Yes sometimes, when it's really good, but there's a lot of technical stuff to keep your mind on, too.

SL: Have you ever acted in any porn films yourself? If not, would you consider doing it?

SK: I have made home movies and would maybe consider a cameo one day, but I'm not sure. I'm not really that much of an exhibitionistic.

SL: Have you worked with any major porn celebrities?

SK: Some British stars such as Hannah Hartley, Mckenzie Lee, Alicia Rhodes, Steve Hooper, Tony Di Sergio, Nadia/Pixie and Angel Long, even Portland's own, Ron Jeremy at one time.

SL: Which porn actor/actress would you most love to direct and why?

SK: Belladonna, she is truly talented.

SL: If you could direct a porn film starring a Hollywood celebrity, who would it be and why?

SK: Hollywood doesn't really do it for me, I don't fancy any of them really!

SL: You mentioned earlier that you're involved in the casting process too, so what is the general casting procedure for a porn actor/actress?

SK: Male actors have to send in nude photos with erections and then audition wanking in a film (a bukkake or wanking in the background), and then in the next scene I will try them out on their own. A girl just needs to send in photos.

SL: Finally, what is your favourite sex toy and why is it your favourite?

SK: I can't remember the exact name but I have a Rabbit vibrator that has the Rabbit ears that tickle the bum, too. It makes the whole area between my clit and anus come alive.

See Sophie Kinsella DVDs at LoveBunny.

Adult Twister - Sex Games Series

by Shelly Lomax
Object
My version of Twister is a “get to know ya” game through and through. The aim for players is to maintain their balance (and composure) as they arrange themselves into a quagmire of suggestive poses.

Number of Players
You can take part with as little as two people, but one mat will fit as many as four. When you play at maximum capacity, it does make for a tight squeeze, but this isn’t a bad thing when you experiment with our adult edition. By adding additional mats, you can accommodate multitudes of Twister players...

What You’ll Need
You’ll require quantities of one or more of the original game of Twister. Ask your guests if they own one before you buy extras. If you’re prepared to try Pink Twister, you will also need supplies to modify the spinner board: scissors, pink paper and tape.

Ideal Participants
The most entertaining candidates for twister are those who are playful and physically fit. Oh yeah, they should have a really open mind and be comfortable with nudity (their own and others’). Players must be prepared to contort themselves into provocative positions while being up close and personal with other players.

How to Play
Twister is played on a big plastic mat that’s covered with rows of different colored dots. The mat serves as a game board and peoples’ bodies are the game pieces. Someone spins the Twister spinner and calls out one color and one of four body parts: left hand, right hand, left foot, right foot. Participants must then place their hand or foot onto the corresponding colored dot. Remember, no two people can share the same dot. Just like in the original game, participants are eliminated when they fall, or touch their knee or elbow to the mat. Here are a few adult variations of Twister:

Strip
Based on the same premise as {Strip Poker}, players remove an article of clothing each time they accidentally contact the mat. This is a great way to break the ice and lead up to what’s next on the list...

Nude
As the name clearly implies, nudity is the essence of this adult adaptation of Twister. Not only do players get an eyeful, they get to rub against one another and squeeze themselves into some outrageous poses; it begins to look a lot like they’re practicing what’s in our Sex Positions Guide. Because participants’ genitals will be intimately displayed, advise guests ahead of time so they can groom appropriately. Are you ready to try something even more arousing? Read on...

Pink
Create your own version of a Spinner Board by integrating the color pink into the wheel. This will represent players touching each others’ “pink”, also known as their genitals. You can stick with hands or feet, since it’s already built into the spinner board, but some participants may be averse to being touched by people’s feet; feel free to modify body parts. If your players are very receptive to this version of Twister, use oral commands (instead of body parts) when you land on “pink”, such as: suck, lick, flick and so on.

Rotating Players
We have a final suggestion to keep your Twister party brimming with excitement. Instead of using multiple mats to contain a large number of players, you may want to use the “tag” method. Just like in tag team wrestling, players can, at any point, tag a spectator to take their place; they can do so simply by calling their name. This expands the length of play, so that people don’t get naked too fast. It also keeps onlookers engaged (as if they wouldn’t be already!)

How to avoid gagging when giving oral sex

by Shelly Lomax

Dentists have discovered a technique to considerably reduce a patient's gag reflex - and you can use it during oral sex!


If your enjoyment of giving head is marred by a supersensitive gag reflex, you may find the following advice from the Men’s Health Guide to the Best Sex in the World useful. Dentists have to contend with the gag reflex too, and a recent study reported:

“The tooth-torturers gathered the most orally sensitive patients and, using acupuncture or acupressure, stimulated their P-6 regions while simultaneously poking around in their mouths. In the majority of patients the gag reflex diminished considerably.

OK, you ask, where’s the P-6 region? No place too exciting: to find it, put the first three fingers of your hand together and place them, about two thumb widths down, on the inside of her wrist. You press there while she pleasures you, and everybody ought to be happy.”

According to traditional Chinese medicine, this is also a recommended treatment for nerves - which may be an added bonus if his proportions are truly awe-inspiring…


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What if You Get Off First?

Every guy has had the unfortunate incident where he had his orgasm before his girlfriend had hers. It can be a very frustrating experience for both people involved, but it doesn’t have to be. There are plenty of ways to please your partner without using your erect penis. There are lots of things you can do with your hands, mouth, or toys. Think of it as naughtier foreplay.
Oral sex is a great way to finish the job! When you perform cunnilingus on her, use your mouth and your hands- This will maximize her pleasure. Listen to the sounds she makes while you are doing it, that will let you know what she likes. Penetrate her with your fingers while you use your tongue to stimulate her clitoris.
Another way to get her off is to use sex toys such as a dildo or a vibrator. You can get creative with this one, because if you have multiple toys, you can use more than one at the same time. All the while, you can still give her head or stimulate her many other erogenous zones.
If your girlfriend is into watching adult videos, then turn one on for her, because it will heighten her state of arousal and increase her chances of achieving an orgasm. If you and your girlfriend have not included adult videos into your sex lives, then see my post below about how to get her to watch them with you. They would be a fantastic addition to your sex lives! If she’s not into watching those types of videos, then try talking dirty to her while doing some [or all] of the above suggestions. Good luck!

Orgasm

                                      

Orgasm


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