I think the best way to prepare for your first time is by educating yourself about your body rather than ‘loosening up’.
Question:
I am the only virgin in my group of friends. We are all in our 20s. I guess I just haven't found the right guy yet but I don't want to be unprepared when I do.
My friends suggested getting a vibrator to loosen me up for when that time comes. What do you think?
Shelly Says:
I think the best way to prepare for your first time is by educating yourself about your body rather than ‘loosening up’. First, check to see if you have a hymen. It’s a thin membrane that stretches across the vaginal opening. Get a mirror and have a look and feel with your finger.
I very much doubt it’s still there because tampons, exercise and perhaps masturbating with your fingers usually gets rid of it very early on. Assuming it’s not there, insert one or two fingers inside (use lube if you feel dry) and see how tight you feel. If you can feel your fingers but it’s not uncomfortably tight, you certainly don’t need ‘loosening up’. (Being too tight, by the way, is rarely something men complain about!).
Get him to penetrate a little at a time, and stop in between so you can allow yourself to relax around him. Don’t expect to orgasm the first time around (or, sadly, the next and next and next time, since only about 20 to 30% of women actually climax purely through penetration!). Most women rely on oral sex or him using his fingers to orgasm, so don’t be disappointed if you’re the same!
by Shelly Lomax
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